However, if this person is a “bad boy” who is bent on causing trouble and living beyond the law, you have to ask yourself what you can live with.
Why would you subject yourself or your family to this kind of stress? Most people in jail only learn how to become better criminals. Does he regret what happened or does he feel bad that he got caught? While we want to believe in the best for everyone, not every person is able to be rehabilitated.
Ask yourself these questions if you are wondering whether to date a man who has been in jail.
(Please note, I say “he” here, but your beloved ex-con can be of any gender or orientation.) 1. Did your potential boyfriend jaywalk and then talk back to a police officer, earning him a night in the jail?
Remember, rule number one is always that you deserve to be happy and in a healthy relationship. Is the crime indicative of who they are now or who they were? If it is the latter, I would probably advise you to run. Evolved adults take responsibility for their lives and their actions. Has this person worked on removing the belief system that made them commit the crime to begin with? In the case of the woman who sent me the advice letter, her partner was not open or honest.You’ve seen her love interventions in magazines from Essence to Ebony and on shows from MTV’s “Made” to the CW Network’s “Bill Cunningham Show.” Abiola is also the creator of the African Goddess Affirmation Cards. Erik Von Markovik (born September 24, 1971), more popularly known by his stage name, Mystery, is a Canadian pickup artist who developed a system of attracting women called The Mystery Method which gained him popularity in the PUA community.I certainly don’t want to be judged for who I was 20 years ago. Does this person have a victim mentality or own up to the fact that he committed a crime? For example, anyone with a history of violence against women will continue with these issues in different forms unless receiving some sort of treatment. She learned about his criminal past from an acquaintance. While, none of us should be judged by our pasts, you should always be open about your life to a potential life partner.Again, prison alone should not be considered as a source of rehabilitation. We all have the ability to rise and shine but the best predictor of past behavior is often future behavior UNLESS a person takes action to interrupt patterns of behavior. What is the current legal fallout from the situation? This doesn’t hinder your fresh start, but lets you both start off strong, knowing that you’re truly in it together.