tags: being-single, dating, goals, hard-to-get, holding-out-for-the-best, love, loving-yourself, not-settling, playing-hard-to-get, positive-thinking, relationships, single, single-life, single-woman, singleness, standards, the-single-woman, validation “Trauma is personal. When it is ignored or invalidated the silent screams continue internally heard only by the one held captive.
When someone enters the pain and hears the screams healing can begin.” ― Danielle Bernock, tags: captive, childhood-trauma, emotional-abuse, freedom, healing, healing-the-emotional-self, invalidate, lies, love, love-heals, marginalized, pain, ptsd, screams, screams-of-agony, silent-pain, trauma, validation “The most powerful and courageous heroes I know are those who bite their tongues when justification, validation, temptation, or vengeance would have them strike with truthful, hurtful words.” ― Richelle E.
Self-validation is the step that comes before self-compassion.
But there are times when that most precious love is revoked, and a hard scab forms over the empty hole.
Though this scab is both healing and protective, it is the reason why validation from future love may not seep in so easily, no matter how wanting the heart.” ― Richelle E.
Self-validation is the recognition and acknowledgement of your own internal experience. Humans have a need to belong and feeling accepted is calming.
Validation does not mean agreeing with or supporting feelings or thoughts. You can validate someone you don’t like even though you probably wouldn’t want to. Acceptance means acknowledging the value of yourself and fellow human beings.