After the proposal is seamlessly executed and delivered by the man with no snags whatsoever, the woman says yes with no hesitation, accompanied by smiles and tears all around. It should guide you in every decision, thought and act until you stand before God, the people and the pastor on the big day. Remember that if you get nothing else out of this column.
Assuming this "cardinal rule of engagement," let's look at some God-honoring, useful ways to spend this unique time.
Do you feel that you can love her sacrificially, or respect and support him?
Also, what do others (those that both of you have been seeking counsel from, under whose authority the relationship has taken place, Christian friends or family) think of the relationship? Does the relationship seem to be good for both of you spiritually, glorifying to God and Christ-centered?
Use that time to meditate on marriage as a relationship and as a picture of the way that Christ relates to the church. While there's a great number of spectacularly bad books on marriage, there are also some very good ones.
.] Finally, talk about things that you think might be sources of conflict during your marriage.
Too many couples put tremendous energy and stress — even tears — into which type of faux parchment they should use for the programs so as to most effectively evoke a "Mediterranean" theme.
If the logistics are so bad (or so important to you) that you feel you just can't get married in the near future, then take a hard look at whether you should be in a relationship.As you plan the music, preaching and other aspects of your wedding service, keep in mind that it is ultimately an event of worship before God.I advise that you keep it simple (even humble), and keep it worshipful.PART 7: From 'Hi' to 'I Do' in a Year » Let's talk first (and briefly) about the decision whether to marry a particular person.Here's a quick review: First, look at the purpose that God has for your life (generally to "bring glory to God and enjoy Him forever"; more specifically how you see that playing out in your ministry and circumstances).