My previous blog ("Should You Date Your Ex-Spouse," dated 1/17/11) made the audacious proposal for considering dating an ex-spouse, since the likelihood of strong positive feelings when getting married could create a positive basis for a renewed relationship, if both parties have matured and stopped blaming each other.Dating an ex-spouse should not be simply a response to loneliness, matter of convenience and/or lack of alternatives.‘Tom is shocked and upset that Katie is dating a co-star he once considered a close friend.
Ex-spouse dating explorations faces a series of negative relationship pattern "tests" that provide opportunities to create new, healthy interactions or to be drawn back into the negative patterns alleviated by the divorce.
Earlier this week Katie Holmes and Jamie Foxx 'confirmed' they were in a relationship, and apparently, Tom Cruise isn't impressed.
Tom Cruise, 55, and 49-year-old Jamie appeared in the 2004 film Collateral together and seemed to be quite pally afterwards.
All relationships include positive and negative feelings about one's partner, but when the negative relationship patterns accumulate and overwhelm positive feelings, divorce is a common outcome.
Some say that the old marriage is like a black hole with its powerful gravitational pull that sucks all into its center, including light.