The NLP didn’t do anything to her except bring out what was already there. Most of the people who use NLP are doing things that have nothing to do with pick up, like effective public speaking, pain relief, and conflict resolution (to name a few).So let’s talk about some ways to use NLP in a non-shady, effective way to get better results with women. You can use a hammer to build a house or tear a house down.However, those who actually know NLP know that you can’t control another person; no matter how many super-cool-sneaky-badass-stealth “mind tricks” you learn, you can never make another person do something against their will, morality, ethics, or personality.
When building rapport it’s critical to understand that on the whole people like people who are like them.
But that doesn’t mean you’ll turn into some kind of zombie that automatically goes to the fridge to crack one open (must…have…cold…beer…).
If you don’t drink beer, you still won’t, whether the suggestion is “embedded” or not.
I’ve personally experienced this, actually—a phobia I’d had for my entire life (27 years) has been gone for the last 2 years after a friend worked with me for about an hour using NLP techniques.
But it’s not just for phobias—I’ve used it (and my clients have used it) for a whole range of things, including adopting healthier eating habits, letting go of past anger and resentment, getting over exes, being more confident and relaxed in social settings and when having to speak in front of a room (I used to be a disaster on stage!