So Warren, who looks like Orville Redenbacher and speaks with the folksy cadence of Garrison Keillor, suggested setting me up with one of his company’s advisory board members, whom he described as brilliant, Jewish, and thirty-eight years old.According to Warren, this board member, like me, might have trouble finding a match on e Harmony.“Let me tell you why you’re such a difficult match,” Warren said, facing me on one of his bright floral sofas.He started running down the backbone of e Harmony’s predictive model of broad-based compatibility, the so-called twenty-nine dimensions (things like curiosity, humor, passion, intellect), and explaining why I and my prospective match were such outliers.Okay, we’ve eliminated people who are not intellectually adequate.We could do the same for people who aren’t creative enough, or don’t have your brilliant sense of humor. The biggest thing you’ve got to do when you’re gifted like you are is to be patient.” After the over-the-top flattery wore off—and I’ll admit, it took an embarrassingly long time—I told Warren that most people I know don’t join online dating sites to be patient.
“Just on IQ alone—people with an IQ lower than 120, say.Understanding your own attachment style and that of you partner or prospective partner can radically change the way you perceive yourself, your partner and your relationship.For more details see "What Attachment Theory Can Teach about Love and Relationships", the cover story of the January/February 2011 issue of Scientific American Mind.We rely on science to tell us everything from what to eat to when and how long to exercise, but what about relationships? Heller reveal how an understanding of adult attachment–the most advanced relationship science to date–can help us find and sustain love.Is there a scientific explanation for why some relationships sail smoothly along while others are more like a storm tossed voyage? Attachment research designates three main "attachment styles," or manners in which people perceive and respond to intimacy in romantic relationships.