So I polled over a dozen of these women and got some pretty consistent feedback.
Here is what single women want their married friends to know. Yes, it can be tough to be single in midlife There clearly are challenges to being single in midlife, from the merely practical to the more deeply personal.
"Others feel sorry for the single woman and always invite a single man to go along (rarely the right idea).
I remember being invited to a wedding of a colleague and being seated with her grandparents and their friends because there were 'no other single women there' when I would have much preferred to be with young couples." Katie agrees, "I have a friend who always talks about how she and her husband and this couple and that couple went out for a fun evening.
"I love being invited to go along with friends, whether they are couples or a group of people, but I find many people 'count' the group to make sure it is 'even.' Or they invite you and another single woman and seat you together as though the two women were a couple," says Sue.She never said anything about it but I vowed that I would never drop a friend like that again." Ellie has been on the receiving end of being dropped by married girlfriends -- in her case, after her divorce: "It hurt, a lot.It sucks to have women who were once your friends decide that you are suddenly the devil because you are not with their husband's bestie.I'm worn out being the initiator in my business, in parenting, on the home front, and for the whole personal side of my life.Just too many decisions to make morning, noon, and night," says Bonnie.