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To me, his variation of events holds together better than the state's.
"When my friends and family first found out I was writing to him there were some raised eyebrows, but now 30 years later they're used to it.
Mr Arriens, a retired translator, founded Life Lines, which supports prisoners on death row through letters.
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"I think it's helped him enormously as he's in a situation of extreme isolation.
They spend almost all of their time in a call and it's difficult to communicate with other prisoners.
He said: "I was putting together a book on people from death row and I asked him if he wanted a pen pal and he said no but we kept chatting.
"We've probably exchanged the best part of 500 letters.