as mystifying as the perennial classic: “The best way to find a girlfriend is to not want one so badly.” “Don’t try so hard and it’ll happen.” “You’ll only find a relationship if you aren’t looking so hard…” It’s gets tossed out almost as often as “Just be yourself” and is about as useful, but with the added benefit of borrowed authority and meaning by sounding like a zen koan delivered by an ancient master.
“Meditate on this truth and you will understand the path of the Player, grasshopper.” More often than not, this is the advice handed out by someone who believes in the binary state of dating skills – you’re either good or you’re not.
Instead, use it to grow closer, share experiences and discover new things. Go buy a nice pair of jeans and a top that isn’t from Threadless and walk confidently.
Then, get a haircut that brings out your best features.
Instead, look at this as an opportunity to show a side of yourself to this person and share it with them. In the end, I appreciate that we have our own interests.
To succeed with him, show him you aren’t one of those people and that he’s awesome the way he is. It has none of the cheesiness of Star Trek and everything it lacked: sex, violence, drama, very strong women, and seriously hot guys. In many ways, relating to a nerdy guy isn’t all that different from relating to a non-nerd; he just has different toys.She blogs about mixing life as a nerd with her career at In 2010, she was nominated for a Webby and won an Emmy for Science of Watchmen. My current boyfriend is a total nerd too, but I almost gave up on our relationship after our first date because he hadn’t read George Orwell’s 1. If you’re a Trekkie, but you discover that the nerd you’re dating hasn’t even seen a clip of Star Trek on You Tube, don’t immediately guffaw.It can be really easy to start bickering over the validity of a modern day Sherlock Holmes, but don’t use your shared passions to compete with one another. As a result, many geeks don’t spend a lot of time or money improving themselves.