Though you may have used that word casually — when what you really meant to say was you "believe" it to be so based on lots of reliable evidence — I want to encourage you to be very intentional about what you base this conviction on.Feelings alone won't carry you in marriage when things get difficult. those who marry will face many troubles in this life, and I want to spare you this," 1 Corinthians b).That is the measure of whether someone who has admitted past sexual sin is a good candidate for marriage. Does he avoid temptation and flee when it appears — or is he prone to encourage it, pressuring you to do the same in the process?Not so much what is in his (or her) past as what is in the present. The answers to these questions will tell you a lot about if he has moved away from the sins of youth into the kind of maturity that marriage will require.
In one survey, 77 percent of self-described "fundamentalist Christian" men admitted to premarital sex.When a young believer makes a chastity vow, the often unspoken part of the bargain is an expectation that God will return that faithfulness with a spouse who has been similarly chaste. With such high rates of premarital sexual activity, the math just doesn't work out for all the virgins to marry virgins.Thankfully it's not the presence of past sin that is a deal-breaker, but how it was and is being dealt with. As I see it, you have two options, the first of which probably flashed through your mind, if only for an instant.There is a possibility that you will meet one, though it's not a guarantee.The second takes its cues from David's words in Psalm 25:6-8 where he prayed, David acknowledges the foolishness of youth but doesn't excuse it, requiring a turning away from it — repenting and running the other direction — replacing those sins with mature and godly behavior.