Since Black women have been hesitant to date interracially for so long, I do consider it “progress” that many of them are discovering that different races of men are willing to love and cherish them. Candice: Something I’ve also noticed lately is that more of my Black female friends have begun to look outside their race specifically due to their frustrations with dating Black men.I feel like this approach could be a bit problematic (because I don’t believe race determines the quality of man).Candice: There seems to be a stronger reaction to Black men who date outside their race than Black women who do the same. But when men do the same, it’s often seen as a betrayal. Christelyn: Actually, I’ve experienced that in the reverse.Historically, Black men have been dating and marrying interracially at higher rates than Black women for the last 40 years.I’ve often been called by my critics, “The Chief Bed Wench,” because I’m seen at the forefront of this issue. But many Black women are sensitive to that kind of insult and outright disapproval. We want the people in our lives to approve of the men we bring home. It comes down to what makes you happy and what makes your heart feel like it’s found its home.It kind of throws a damper on the inclination to explore interracial dating if you know your parents said they would disown you if you ever brought home a white boy. I’m seeing more and more Black women finding their bliss with the men who love and accept them, regardless of race. If you’re lonely and sad, but your entire peer group (including family) approves of the idea of never dating a non-Black man even if he was utterly kick-ass amazing, can you really say those people in your life want the best for you?
No, I don’t mean gabbing about the latest drama between Olivia and Fitz.
I also advocate because Black women are at a unique dating disadvantage in America.
Marriageable Black women outnumber marriageable Black men by the millions.
Which bills are they paying to have this much power in your life?
Candice: Despite the popularity of shows like , do you think that interracial relationships still face a stigma in pop culture and society? However, with in particular, there’s some elements of the old stereotype of a Black woman waiting in the wings for a white man who already has his white wife and family. I like that in both shows the Black women are able to express a full spectrum of emotions.